• Voices of Quarantine

Each day my husband goes to work, my fear and anxiety exponentially increases. He’s on the frontlines of transporting COVID-19 patients to the hospital. He’s entering people’s homes, carrying patients to the ambulance, and in and out of ER’s. I have to face the facts. He’s around the virus. And if he hasn’t been around it yet, it’s only a matter of time before he will be. But more than likely, it’s already happened. 

And then he comes home, to our home where I’m sheltering at home, only going out for groceries and walks to get fresh air. And I’m consistently sobered with the reality that more likely than not, my husband and I will get the virus. 

And I’m terrified. All the time. I know that we are young and (for the most part) healthy so statistics say we’ll both bounce back and be fine. But I can’t shake the fear. More often than not I feel crippled into despair and hopelessness. I feel so alone. I feel like no one understands what it’s like to be the spouse of someone on the frontlines. 

I talk to my friends and they’re sheltering back at home with their families, and I’m frustrated because I don’t have that luxury. Not unless I want to spend an extended time away from my spouse, which to be frank I’m just not willing to do. I want to be here. I want to be with Dan, supporting him and cheering him on. 

But it means sacrifice. It means sacrificing the comfort of self-quarantining with my spouse. It means falling into an empty bed on the scariest days. It means not always receiving the best of my spouse because he’s giving his best to the ill, vulnerable, and hurting. It means having to wait to watch the next Marvel movie in our marathon because I promised I’d watch it with him. It means lots of meals alone spent worrying about what he’s doing in that moment. It means waking up in the middle of the night and checking his location to make sure it seems like he’s safe. 

And I just want you to know that you are not alone. Let me say that again because I need to hear it myself. You are not alone. We are not alone. 

Every tear, every prayer, every scream — seen and known. Your ministry and support to your spouse is so needed and so good. Your sacrifice of your comfort and health is for the good of many. And although it’s hard, and although it’s scary, love, support, and encourage your spouse. They need you right now. Author: Allie Phalin Submitted from: https://lovesneverphalin.com/

  • Voices of Quarantine

Over these last few weeks of Staying at Home/Social Distancing, it has been a real challenge to find something to do to pass the time. What else can you do when you have already watched everything on your watchlist on Netflix & rewatched all the shows that you grew up on Disney +? I guess you could read a book......

But the thing that has been bringing me the most joy is reconnecting with family and old friends via FaceTime, Insta-Live, Google Hangouts, or just an old fashion phone call. In our everyday lives, it's so easy to get caught up in what we're doing and the goals that we try to accomplish for ourselves, that we forget to call our families and see how they're doing. It's also a great opportunity to call cousins you haven't seen since you were 5 and have those interesting conversations about how you both have grown as people.

But with friends, now has been a perfect time just to call and everyone is so excited to answer the phone. Originally we were such a texting generation, that some people would shudder at the idea of a phone call. But now at this time, I feel a phone call helps strengthen the connection better because it's the temporary placeholder of that human connection of someone just coming up to you to say "Hi!"

I wish you all best in this Quarantine, stay safe!